top of page

Stop the Struggle

Updated: Nov 19, 2020

Did you know that life was never meant to be a constant struggle? Are you ready to learn a secret to healthy relationships? #Relationships #HealthyRelationships #StopTheStruggle #Forgiveness #Humility

You can have the life you long for...

I want to encourage you to stop the daily struggle to be who you were called to be. Most importantly, I want to encourage you to stop the struggle with the people in your life. While I was mediating this morning, it hit me that Jesus never struggled with people. You never read of him in conflict with others. You never see or read of him struggling to be who he was called to be. These thoughts lead me to consider my own relationships and my own calling and the desires of my own heart. I don't have to struggle to be who I want to be. And neither do you.

Are you still struggling to figure out your life and relationships?

Do you find yourself in constant struggle with the people in your life? I find myself there more often than I’d like to. Do you find yourself upset, frustrated, angry, or jealous? Let’s acknowledge that those feelings are our own. How can we stop the struggle with the people in our lives?

May I suggest that you can start by creating a space for them to just be themselves? By creating a space where they feel safe, loved and supported, the relationship can grow and flourish. If you work at it, you can create this space, even if you disagree with their actions, attitudes, and behaviors. I believe the key principle here is to treat the people in your life the way that you want to be treated.

We have a role to play in the status of our best and worst relationships…

Have you ever spoken in an unkind or harsh way to another person? Has anyone ever spoken to you in this way? Have you ever wronged another person? Has anyone ever wronged you? What’s the difference here? Both people have been guilty of the same behaviors. Depending upon which scenario is playing out, you either feel justified, or you feel hurt and anger. If it was you who spoke in a harsh and unkind manner to another, you might feel justified, as if they deserved exactly what you dished out to them. On the other- hand, if you were spoken to in a harsh and unkind manner, you might feel anger, hurt, and resentment.

Here’s how to get it right…

To avoid both scenarios you first have to mine your own business and decide that you won’t allow the harsh words of others to grow down in the crevices of your own heart and soul. Secondly, you have to decide that you will live a principled life by doing unto others what you would have or wish they’d do unto you. How can you make people treat you right? Do you talk about others? Be sure they will talk about you. How you want to be treated is depended upon you taking the first step and treating them the way you want to be treated. If you do it to someone else, rest assured it will happen to you to.

So you can end the struggle with people by releasing any offense and committing to treat others the same way that you want to be treated. This really does require that we pay attention to our attitudes and the environment and atmosphere that we create with our words and actions towards others. We have to own our part in the drama of our lives. Life was never meant to be constant struggle.

Practicing humility in the face of hurt and offense keeps your heart free from the life draining drama and emotional roller coaster ride that pride and arrogance can create. It takes practice, but you can do it. You deserve a life full of passion and joy. It starts with building your life on the right foundation. You decide if your foundation will remain struggle or if you’ll build on peace and humility, love, and forgiveness.

I hope this was helpful. Please drop me a line at to let me know if this was helpful and what content you’d like to see to help you grow in your relationships with others and with the person reading this page. That’s you. Smile. Talk soon.

P.S. If you need outside resources, please consult a counselor, therapist or clergy.


bottom of page